Kavita Hatten is Here to Help You Heal from a Breakup – Based in Phoenix, Scottsdale, and Chandler – Serving Arizona
When a relationship ends, it doesn’t just change your daily routine – it changes who you are. Whether the breakup was your decision or theirs, whether it was sudden or saw it coming for months, the end of a relationship can feel like losing a part of yourself.
You might be struggling with grief, anger, confusion, or regret. You might be questioning whether you made the right choice, whether you’ll ever feel normal again, or whether you’re capable of being in a healthy relationship. You might feel stuck – unable to move forward but unable to go back either.
Breakup counseling provides a space to process the loss, understand what happened, and begin rebuilding your sense of self outside of the relationship. As a licensed therapist who works with individuals navigating breakups, I help clients heal from heartbreak, learn from the experience, and move forward with clarity and confidence.
If you’re struggling to cope with a breakup and need support, I am here to help. Get started today by calling (480) 598-9540 or use our online form to start a conversation.
The Impact of Breakups on Mental Health
Breakups are one of the most emotionally painful experiences people go through. The end of a relationship – especially a long-term or serious one – can trigger grief, anxiety, depression, and a crisis of identity that affects every area of your life.
During and after a breakup, you might struggle with:
- Grief And Loss – You’re not just losing a partner. You’re losing shared routines, future plans, mutual friends, and the version of yourself that existed in that relationship.
- Anxiety About The Future – Worrying about whether you’ll find someone else, whether you’ll be alone forever, or whether you made a terrible mistake.
- Identity Confusion – When you’ve been part of a couple for months or years, being single again can feel disorienting. You may not know who you are without that relationship defining you.
- Anger And Resentment – Whether directed at your ex, yourself, or the situation, anger is a normal part of breakup grief – but it can be difficult to process in healthy ways.
- Self-blame and Rumination – Replaying conversations, wondering what you could have done differently, or obsessing over whether the breakup could have been prevented.
- Physical Symptoms – Difficulty sleeping, loss of appetite or overeating, fatigue, or feeling physically sick from the stress and emotional pain.
- Difficulty Moving On – You want to stop thinking about your ex, but you can’t. You check their social media, drive by their house, or find excuses to reach out even though you know it’s not healthy.
Breakups are painful. And that pain doesn’t follow a neat timeline or predictable stages. Therapy helps you navigate the messy, non-linear process of healing and moving forward.
Therapeutic Approaches for Breakup Counseling
As a therapist specializing in breakup counseling in Arizona, I use evidence-based techniques to help individuals process heartbreak, understand relationship patterns, and rebuild confidence. Some of the therapeutic approaches I offer include:
- Grief Work – Breakups are a form of loss, and they require grieving. I help you process the sadness, anger, and confusion that come with losing someone you cared about, without getting stuck in those emotions.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – Helps identify and challenge distorted thinking patterns like “I’ll never find someone else,” “I’m not good enough,” or “I should have seen this coming.” CBT replaces these thoughts with more balanced, realistic perspectives.
- Attachment-Based Therapy – Explores how your attachment style (formed in childhood and reinforced in past relationships) influences how you experience breakups and relationships. Understanding your patterns helps you make healthier choices in the future.
- Self-Compassion Practices – Breakups often trigger harsh self-criticism. I help you develop self-compassion so you can be kind to yourself during a painful time rather than adding to your suffering with judgment and blame.
- Narrative Therapy – Assists in reshaping how you see the relationship and the breakup. Rather than viewing yourself as a victim or a failure, narrative therapy helps you see the relationship as one chapter in a larger story – and helps you write the next chapter with intention.
- Boundary Setting and No-Contact Strategies – Provides guidance on how to create healthy boundaries with your ex, manage shared social circles, and resist the urge to reach out when you’re feeling vulnerable.
- Future-Focused Goal Setting – Helps you identify what you want for yourself moving forward – in relationships, career, personal growth – so you’re not just healing from the past but actively building a future you’re excited about.
Through personalized therapy, I help individuals move through heartbreak without getting stuck, learn from the relationship without blaming themselves, and rebuild their sense of self with clarity and confidence.
When Breakup Counseling Can Help
You don’t need to be in crisis to benefit from breakup counseling. Therapy can help at any stage of the breakup process, whether you’re:
- Deciding whether to end the relationship. You’re not sure if you should stay or go, and you need clarity about what’s best for you.
- Freshly out of the relationship. The breakup just happened and you’re overwhelmed by grief, anger, or confusion.
- Stuck in the healing process. It’s been months (or longer) and you still can’t stop thinking about your ex or move forward with your life.
- Struggling with self-blame. You’re convinced the breakup was your fault and you can’t forgive yourself for mistakes you made.
- Afraid to date again. You want to be in a relationship, but the fear of getting hurt again is keeping you isolated.
- Noticing unhealthy patterns. You keep ending up in similar relationships or repeating the same mistakes, and you want to understand why.
Breakup counseling isn’t just about “getting over” someone. It’s about understanding what happened, processing the loss, learning from the experience, and building a healthier relationship with yourself so you can show up differently in future relationships.
About My Practice
I am a licensed therapist based in Phoenix, offering remote therapy services to individuals throughout Arizona. I used to operate my practice in person, but I have found that most of my clients preferred and benefitted from remote counseling. So I transitioned to virtual therapy to provide greater accessibility and convenience, ensuring clients receive support in a comfortable and familiar setting and reducing the amount of effort it takes to engage in therapy.
My approach to therapy is personal, extensive, and takes into account your specific experiences and circumstances. With in-depth, practical strategies, I’m here to help you heal from heartbreak, understand your relationship patterns, and move forward with confidence and clarity.
Take the First Step – Call for a Free Consultation
If you’re struggling to move on from a breakup, if you’re stuck in grief or self-blame, or if you’re ready to understand your patterns and build healthier relationships in the future, therapy can help.
You don’t have to go through this alone. Contact me at (480) 598-9540 or fill out my online form to schedule a consultation. Let’s work together to help you heal, grow, and create the life and relationships you deserve.