More and more singles are using – if not rely on – online dating apps to help them navigate the dating world. While this may not be the only way to meet people, it is the one more people are using with accessibility that allows you to get connected to a broader dating pool than would otherwise be available.
NOTE: For more about the challenges of online dating please see our most recent blog post.
How to Get Started:
If you want to meet people online, you will need to have a profile – this is your first introduction and the tool that you use to “attract” and connect with potential mates. If you are a “beginner” and new to online dating, it is important that you approach this in manageable steps, and take time to research dating platforms and understand the “why” (“Why am I doing this?”) before taking the first step. Many single clients that I have worked with naturally have anxiety about starting the process and I have provided guidance and support from the onset.
How We Can Help:
As therapists, our primary role is to provide support, but our expertise in relationship issues, self-confidence, attachment styles, and much more can help provide you with potentially valuable insight that can help you write a clear and concise profile that is based on who you are and what you are looking for.
What Questions Can We Help You Navigate:
- “How can I show up authentically on my profile?” – we will encourage you to prioritize time to self-reflect before writing your profile, help you learn what makes you unique – by identifying strengths (and even weaknesses), and guide you in developing self-compassion to embrace the “whole” you as part of your growth journey.
- “What qualities am I looking for in a partner?” – we can help you identify your partner-relationships needs and how your emotional, physical, spiritual, financial needs etc. are all part of understanding yourself and the interplay in relationships.
- “What if I am not quite where I need to be?” (past trauma, negative experiences, confidence issues) – we can help you navigate these challenges and begin healing so you feel ready to take the first step.
Therapists can also work with you to build your confidence so that you are more comfortable sharing your photos and your information. We can encourage you to pursue your passions and goals, and maintain your identity so “finding a partner” does not become all-consuming. We can also help you navigate being single, learn to embrace the experience (rather than just the outcome) and navigate emotions of excitement, anxiety or self-doubt when you do or don’t hear a response. We can also help you identify if single-hood is what you truly desire and how to pause dating if that is a priority.
Navigating the online dating world is difficult. I may not be able to guarantee you a mate, but I can help you be in your best possible position not only to showcase your true self, but also to feel healthy throughout the process. I work with many individuals in Phoenix looking for help in their relationships who desire to understand their part in how they initiate, connect and communicate in their most intimate relationships.
So, give yourself a gift and start the healing journey with a therapist, whether you desire to date or want to embrace single-hood, reach out to me and take the first step to have a healthier relationship with yourself.
